“If the path before you is clear,” Joseph Campbell once said, “you’re probably on someone else’s.”
I walked someone else’s path for the first 50 years of life. A married pastor coming out as gay at midlife… that’s a tough transition. It set me on an adventure that continues to this day. I’ve learned how important it is to live from our inner source of love and wisdom. And I’ve come to appreciate how helpful a spiritual guide can be in helping us attend to this source.
Spiritual guidance (aka spiritual direction or companionship) is a form of deep listening. It’s an opportunity for you to talk with someone knowledgeable and empathetic about your spiritual life and practice. It’s a place to work through obstacles and celebrate the graces you receive.
When someone listens to us this way, we begin to see ourselves with compassion. We begin to see who and what we are, that we are deeply connected with the divine and with other people. Wisdom begins to emerge. We see how we can move forward in the areas that concern us, or how we can be at peace with the things we cannot change.
I’m an interspiritual guide. Personally and professionally, I draw from several traditions. My deepest roots are in the Christian contemplative tradition. I have an MA in spirituality from St. John’s University (MN) and did doctoral coursework in spirituality at Catholic University (DC). I’ve practiced centering prayer for decades.
But I’ve come to see the wisdom in other traditions too. I study Hindu texts (e.g., Patañjali), and draw practices from the meditative tradition of yoga. I learn from Buddhist teachers (Thich Nhat Hanh, Tara Brach, etc.). I appreciate Daoist philosophy and Sufi mystics. And more. I want to honor however you name the divine and help you find the practices that serve you best.
Some of my clients are, like me, LGBTQ+. It can be complicated for us to find a path that fits. It helps to talk with someone who understands.
The first session is free. It gives us a chance to explore whether we are a good fit. Beyond that, most clients meet with me once every two to four weeks for an hour or so by video. Payment varies by income, ranging from $65 to $95 per session. If these rates aren’t workable, please talk with me about it.
To learn more, please email me at firstname.lastname@example.org. We can explore together your needs and whether we are a good fit. You can learn more about spiritual guidance (aka spiritual direction) at the SDI Companions website. As a member of SDI, I subscribe to their Guidelines for Ethical Conduct. I’ll be happy to tell you more about my training and supervision when we talk.
It wasn’t until I began professional psychiatric therapy
that I realized how helpful David’s guidance had been
in equipping me, both spiritually and emotionally,
to navigate the murky waters between the spirit and the psyche.
Your story is safe with David;
he cares, fiercely.
David has helped me understand my journey and myself,
not only as a gay man but also as a Christian and artist.
His hard and honest questions lead me to see myself and others around me.
His compassion, loyal presence and sensitivity help me find courage to carry on.
When I was in the darkest place I’ve even been
he was there with me, guiding me through those uncertain times.
Favorite Quotes on Guidance
Whoever travels without a guide needs two hundred years for a two-day journey.
~Rumi (Sufi tradition)
It is no mean consolation in this life
to have someone in whom your spirit may rest,
to whom you can pour out your soul.
~Aelred of Rievaulx (Christian tradition)
Venerable Ānanda said to the Blessed One [the Buddha],
“This is half of the holy life, lord:
having admirable people as friends, companions, and colleagues.”
“Don’t say that, Ānanda,” [said the Buddha]. “Don’t say that.
Having admirable people as friends, companions, and colleagues
is actually the whole of the holy life.”
~Upaḍḍha Sutta (Buddhist tradition)